Autistic Teddy Bear Mum Bullied at the Opera

Photo of Debra holding Bearsac sitting in a box at the Royal Opera House

Thank you the Royal Opera House staff.

Mummy had had some sort of panic attack during Peter Grimes. She might have even he passed out for a short while.

Having arrived at the Opera House with 5 minutes until curtain, mummy was already panicky. Wearing her mask in the steaming seats up in the gods was bad enough. Having pre-judging twit assume that she would lean me over the balcony during the performance didn’t help!

Taking advantage of his privilege of his strait-laced conventional demeaner and thus assuming he’d likely being believed over a woman with a talking teddy bear, the man said that he would inform the staff if mummy got me in the way. This would have been fair enough had she done – what he wrongly prejudged she would do. Of course, she had no more intention of getting me or herself in the way than he had!

I think the man saw Mummy as a cheeky child answering back the adult when she calmly replied that if he wants to miss the performance by complaining then that is up to him.

Perhaps it’s the fluffy filling in my head but I’m at a loss to understand why an adult having a teddy bear would mean that they would get the teddy bear or their arms in the way at a theatre!

I think these types of humans feel threatened by accepting people that are a little ‘different’ as equal adults, and feel more secure to imagine them lower!

The lights dimmed, the performance was imminent… this man and his acquaintance decided to have a conversation! In revenge for him prejudging her, Mummy shushed them. One of them told her to shut up!

You know type, insecure because they want to be a higher social class. They feel comforted by trying to assert their – self assumed – authority on people they perceive as easy to feel superior to! The type that are either trying to show they are better than others or fawning on those they think are superior. They act in such a way because they assume upper-class people do. They think to do so will make them appear upper-class. However, U people tend to have more class than to behave as this man did.

You know when you human creatures are trying not to cough during a performance? Well this happened to Mummy. Trying to supress her coughs took her into panic mode. In the environmental and social heat of the situation I think she fainted. She remembers coming back to awareness and feeling disorientated and not sure where she was.

A staff member got mummy’s attention and asked with the thumbs-up gesture if she was okay. Mummy gave the thumbs-up back. This is good because often when someone has a panic attack or epileptic seizure (which it may have been assumed to be) an ambulance is called. It’s not necessary in many cases. Calmly asking by gesture is a good no-fuss way to deal with it.

At the interval two staff members were there to see that Mummy was okay. One took her (and me of course) down to a spacious box for the remainder of the performance.

Mummy had a bit of further panic in the box when she started coughing and was worried that it would be disturbing to the couple there. Carefully, she moved towards the door to exit into the corridor but in panic, was unable to open the door. Controlling her breathing, she sipped some water and regain composure before quietly going back to the seat.

The couple in the box were very lovely and were probably more of the social class that the insecure man up in the cheap seats really wanted to be!

Because Mummy is eccentric in a way that people are snobby about or bully her over she was worried that she wouldn’t be listened to when she saw the man speaking with staff at the interval. Thankfully, The Royal Opera House are more professional than to take one side of a story.

Get email notifications of updates

Signup now and receive an email once I publish new content.

I agree to have my personal information transfered to MailChimp ( more information )

We will never give away, trade or sell your email address. You can unsubscribe at any time.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.